NEDERR Framework

Some simple things like the NEDERR Framework, really make a difference in your life the moment you become aware of them.  Here’s one I share with my clients and I think is worth sharing with you before we even meet.  You can put it in play from right now.

The NEDERR Framework is a simple, actionable tool to give you self management.  This will help with your self regulation and your overall mental health and well being.

When you notice stress symptoms such as…

  • Tight shoulders or other muscles
  • Emotional eating (eating to avoid feelings)
  • Watching mindless entertainment
  • …or anything else that tried to mask over stress, even working out

…stop and Notice that you’re experiencing a symptom of stress.

Then Experience your body by taking big deep breaths, relaxing your muscles, and focusing on the feelings in your torso.

Now Differentiate the emotion that you’re feeling such as feeling angry, happy, fearful, sad, anxious, or whatever.

Next, Express your feeling out loud. You’ve got to say how you feel to get out of your head merely analyzing the feeling and into your body and heart to process it.

Once you express, keep trying out different words until it Resonates and you start to cry. Keep saying the words (like “I feel so alone” or “I feel hopeless”) until you’ve stopped crying. Crying is your body’s natural way of healing emotional trauma.

If you’ve done this, the emotion should be Resolved. If it’s not you may need to talk to someone using nonviolent communication to express your needs, feelings, and requests healthily.


The difference between emotions and feelings.

The important difference between inter-personal feelings and core feelings.

How to identify your primary feeling-beliefs and learn how they shape the world you live in and who you think you are.

The NEDER process – the six step sequence designed to wake up your emotional system’s natural expression and healing ability.

The difference between crying that heals and crying that doesn’t.

The five different levels of crying and how this affects how long it take for you to heal.

When you should share inter-personal feeling and when you should share core feelings.

The importance of knowing which of the nine core feelings you have built into your sense of self and the world you live in!

How your Accidental Conditioned History (ACH) keeps you in the same kind of dysfunctional relationship patterns over and over.

A completely new way of understanding and working with common mental health challenges including depression, anxiety, panic attacks, chronic anger, addictions, etc