Shame is deeper than guilt – shame is about identity and whilst guilt is about behaviour. So when you are invited to feel shame, or ashamed, it is with a sense of being less or in a more permanent state of lack than the more temporary guilt.
Shame becomes a spiral – a negative corkscrew that narrows inward on itself with a focal point of unworthiness and being “essentially bad.”
In this reflection, I share my growth on shame and how growing through shame in particular personal circumstances has helped me. I now don’t own shame or keep it or bury it – but instead let it flow by me and witness it pass.